Abhanga 192

This abhang names a replacement-mechanism for kāmā / craving / addiction / compulsive-desire that is rare and important:

The verse

Literal translation

What it means

A kāmā-rescue abhang. Five movements:

1. कामें पीडिलों माया — kāmā the māyā tortured (me). Kāmā (desire / craving) is named as māyā (mother / illusion). The personification: desire-as-mother — the source from which all action springs, but who tortures if not transcended.

2. बहु मारी नाहीं दया — beats much, no mercy. The brutality of kāmā is named without softening. Kāmā does not let-go gently; it beats.

3. तुझ्या राहिलों आधारें — जालें अवघें चि बरें — I stayed by your support — all is fine. The escape-mechanism is not arguing with kāmā; it is staying by Krishna's support. Stay near him — kāmā cannot reach into that zone.

4. आतां येतों काकुळती — now I come clinging-with-grief. Kakulati — the grieving-clinging posture. The bhakta is grateful-and-shaken; the kāmā-torture leaves marks; the rescue does not erase them but contains them. The post-rescue posture is clinging, not triumphant.

5. तुझ्या भिडा — गेली पीडा — with your bhīḍā, the pīḍā is gone. The wordplay is precise. Bhīḍā (Marathi: shyness, hesitation, modesty, binding-shyness toward the loved) replaces pīḍā (pain-of-craving). The new affect — bhīḍā (a kind of shy-deferring-toward-Krishna) — displaces the old affect. Kāmā did not get fought; it got replaced. [T]

For someone today

This abhang names a replacement-mechanism for kāmā / craving / addiction / compulsive-desire that is rare and important:

1. Kāmā is brutal. Don't soften it. बहु मारी नाहीं दया. The no-mercy register is honest. Anyone who has been seriously held by craving knows this.

2. You don't argue with kāmā. Argue-with-craving fails. Kāmā out-argues you every time. The escape is not argument.

3. You stay by the ādhāra (support). Krishna's support — or the real-presence in your life — is the zone in which kāmā cannot reach. Stay-near. The proximity is the protection.

4. Post-rescue posture is kakulati — clinging-with-grief. Don't expect triumph. The torture leaves marks; the rescue contains them but does not erase them. The kakulati posture is the right one.

5. Replacement, not removal. भिडा replaces पीडा. The new affect — bhīḍā, a shy, binding affect toward the loved one — displaces the old craving. You don't remove the craving; you develop a new affect that displaces it. Kāmā needs an energy-channel; if you give it the bhīḍā channel toward the loved one, the pīḍā-channel dries.

For today: if you have been arguing with a craving and losing, stop arguing. Stay near the real-presence. Allow bhīḍā (a shy, binding affect toward the loved one) to develop. Pīḍā will go with (not before) bhīḍā taking hold.

मराठी: ही ओवी काम, तलफ, व्यसन किंवा दुर्दम्य इच्छेवर उपाय म्हणून एक दुर्मिळ आणि महत्त्वाची पद्धत सांगते — पुनर्स्थापनेची पद्धत.

1. काम क्रूर असतो — तो मऊ करून सांगू नका. 'बहु मारी नाहीं दया' — ही निर्दय भाषा प्रामाणिक आहे. ज्याने तलफेचा खरा फटका सोसला आहे, त्याला हे माहीत असतं.

2. कामाशी वाद घालू नका — तलफेशी वाद घातला की तो हरतोच, कारण काम प्रत्येक वेळी युक्तिवादात जिंकतो. सुटका वादातून मिळत नाही.

3. आधाराजवळ राहा — कृष्णाचा आधार, किंवा तुमच्या आयुष्यातली खरी उपस्थिती, हीच अशी जागा आहे जिथे काम पोचू शकत नाही. जवळ राहणं हेच रक्षण आहे.

4. सुटकेनंतरची अवस्था विजयाची नसते, तर काकुळतीची, गलबलल्यासारखी असते — यातना खुणा सोडून जाते; सुटका त्या पुसून टाकत नाही, फक्त सांभाळते. काकुळतीची अवस्था हीच योग्य अवस्था आहे.

5. जुनं काढून टाकणं नव्हे, तर नवं रुजवणं — भिडा पीडेची जागा घेतो. प्रिय व्यक्तीकडे वाटणारी लाजरी, बांधलेली भावना — भिडा — जुनी तलफ बाजूला सारते. तलफ काढून टाकायची नसते; तिला बाजूला सारणारी नवी भावना रुजवायची असते. कामाला एक मार्ग हवा असतो; तो मार्ग प्रिय व्यक्तीकडे वळवला — भिडेकडे वळवला — की पीडेचा मार्ग आपोआप आटतो.

आज एवढंच — जर तुम्ही एखाद्या तलफेशी वाद घालत हरत असाल, तर वाद थांबवा. खऱ्या उपस्थितीजवळ राहा. प्रिय व्यक्तीकडे वाटणारी ती लाजरी, बांधलेली भावना रुजू द्या. भिडा रुजल्यावरच पीडा जाईल, त्याआधी नाही.

Where this applies

• Kāmā is brutal — don't soften. बहु मारी नाहीं दया.
• Stay-neartheādhāra, don't argue. Proximity is protection.
• Bhīḍāreplacespīḍā. Replacement, not removal.

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