Abhanga 469

When one true bond truly sustains you, worldly labels, family distance, and gossip lose their grip, and protecting your reputation stops being the priority.

The verse

Literal translation

What it means

A cala-Raghurāma-to-Your-own-gāva abhang. Continuation of the sōrī-cluster. Four claims:

1. नव्हे नरनारी संवसारीं अंतरलों — निर्लज्ज निष्काम जना वेगळे चि ठेलों — not nara-nārī, in samvasāra inner-departed — nirlajja, niṣkāma — separated from jana. The opening-self-claim: I am neithernaranornārī; insamvasāra, I am inner-departed (= mentally-elsewhere); nirlajja (shameless), niṣkāma (without-desire);separated from the jana. Total-departure from the social-categories.

2. चाल रघुरामा न आपुल्या गांवा — तुजविण आम्हां कोण सोयरा सांगाती — cala Raghurāma to Your own gāva — without You, who is our sōyarā-sāngātī? The go-with-deva-call: cala Raghurāma — let's go to Your owngāva(village / home); without You — who is oursōyarā(kin) andsāngātī(companion)? Only Raghurāma is kin-and-companion now.

3. जनवाद लोकनिंद्य पिशुनाचे चेरे — साहूं तुजसाठीं अंतरलीं सहोदरें — jana-vāda, lōka-nindya, piśunācē cērē — bear for You — sahōdarē departed. The suffering-for-You claim: I will bearjana-vāda(people's argument),lōka-nindya(worldly-blame),piśunācē cērē(slanderers' company) — for Your sake; thesahōdarē(siblings) have left. World-rejection for deva-attachment.

4. बहुता पाठीं निरोप हाटीं पाठविला तुज — तुका म्हणे आतां सांडुनि लौकिक लाज — to many — sent niropa at the hāṭa — Tuka says: now, abandoning laukika-lāja. The closing-claim: I have sentniropa(message) to many — at the hāṭa (market); Tuka says:now — abandoning the laukika-lāja (worldly-honor).

[T]

For someone today

Here the devotee says that ordinary social labels no longer fit: not quite man or woman in the world's eyes, shameless, wanting nothing, and set apart from the crowd. What matters now is that Raghurama, God, is the only real kin and companion, closer than the family and siblings who have drifted away. The devotee is ready to bear people's gossip, public blame, and the whispers of small-minded critics for the sake of that relationship, and finally sends word out to everyone that worldly reputation no longer holds any weight. The lesson is that devotion can ask you to loosen your grip on how others categorize or judge you, so you can hold on to the one bond that truly sustains you.

मराठी: इथे भक्त म्हणतो की जगाच्या नेहमीच्या ओळखी आता त्याला लागू पडत नाहीत — तो नीट पुरुषही नाही आणि स्त्रीही नाही, त्याला लाज वाटत नाही, त्याला काही नको आहे, आणि तो गर्दीपासून वेगळा उभा आहे. आता खरं महत्त्वाचं हे आहे की रघुराम, म्हणजे देव, हाच खरा नातेवाईक आणि सोबती आहे, दुरावलेल्या नातलगांपेक्षाही जवळचा. त्या नात्यासाठी भक्त लोकांची कुजबुज, सार्वजनिक निंदा आणि कुत्सित टीका सहन करायला तयार आहे, आणि शेवटी सगळ्यांना निरोप पाठवतो की आता जगातली प्रतिष्ठा त्याला काही अर्थाची वाटत नाही. यातून शिकवण अशी की भक्ती कधी कधी इतरांच्या नजरेत तुम्हाला कसं ठरवलं जातं याची पकड सैल करायला सांगते, जेणेकरून तुम्ही खऱ्या अर्थाने तुम्हाला तारणाऱ्या एका नात्याला घट्ट धरून राहू शकाल.

Where this applies

• Nara-nārī dissolves in deep-bhakti. Inner-departed.
• Nirlajja-niṣkāma—jana-separated. Bhakta-stance.
• Only Raghurāma is sōyarā. Exclusivity.
• Bear world's-blame for deva. Sahōdarē depart.
• Abandon laukika-lāja. Closing.

Related verses

• Abhanga 2467 — What looks like your whole world, like a fig to the insect living inside it, is only a tin
• Abhanga 4481 — Tukaram promises that sincerely calling on the Lord's name, knowingly or unknowingly, with
• Abhanga 4482 — Tukaram teaches that no ritual equals sincerely speaking the Lord's name, that self-center
• Abhanga 4497 — Tukaram describes a life so soaked in devotion that Krishna's presence fills every ordinar