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Abhanga 833

True love means knowing another's heart, a closed mind blocks everything, and once someone's words have shown you who they are, you don't need to keep testing them.

When knowing the jīva is by-the-name āvaḍī; the stubborn drags amangaḷa — and you have to recognize this register

When citta-constriction prevents anything; the foolish's extreme cāra — and you accept this image

When without time, nothing relishes; the sankēta is set-aside — and you allow this image

The verse

जीवींचें जाणावें या नांवें आवडी । हेंकड तें ओढी अमंगळ ॥१॥ चित्तीच्या संकोचें कांहीं च न घडे । अतिशयें वेडे चार तो चि ॥ध्रु.॥ काळाविण कांहीं नाहीं रुचों येत । करूनि संकेत ठेवियेला ॥२॥ तुका म्हणे कळे वचनें चांचणी । काय बोलवूनि वेळोवेळां ॥३॥

Literal translation

Jīva — knowing — by-this-name — āvaḍī. Hēnkaḍa — pulls — amangaḷa. Citta-sankōca — nothing — happens. Extreme — vēḍē — cāra. Without-kāḷa — nothing — ruci. Making — sankēta — set-aside. Tuka says: known — by-vacana — cāñcaṇī. What — speaking — again-and-again.

मराठी: (दुसऱ्याच्या) जीवींचं जाणणं — हें-च नांव आवडी. हेंकड (हट्टी) तेच अमंगळाला ओढतो. चित्ताच्या संकोचानं कांहीं घडत नाहीं — अतिशयें (तीव्र) वेड्यांचा चार. काळाविण कांहीं रुचत नाहीं — संकेत करून ठेवला (बाजूला). Tuka म्हणे: वचनांच्या चांचणीनं कळतं — वेळो-वेळां बोलवून काय?.

Word-by-word gloss

Marathi	Meaning
जीवींचें जाणावें या नांवें आवडी	"jīva's — knowing — by-this-name — āvaḍī"
हेंकड तें ओढी अमंगळ	"hēnkaḍa — pulls — amangaḷa"
चित्तीच्या संकोचें कांहीं च न घडे	"citta-sankōca — nothing — happens"
अतिशयें वेडे चार तो चि	"extreme — vēḍē — cāra"
काळाविण कांहीं नाहीं रुचों येत	"without-kāḷa — nothing — ruci"
करूनि संकेत ठेवियेला	"making — sankēta — set-aside"
कळे वचनें चांचणी	"known — by-vacana — cāñcaṇī (test)"
काय बोलवूनि वेळोवेळां	"what — speaking — again-and-again"

What it means

A knowing-jīva-by-āvaḍī-stubborn-pulls-amangaḷa-citta-constriction-nothing-happens-foolish's-extreme-cāra-no-time-no-ruci-sankēta-set-aside-words-test-knows-no-need-to-repeat abhang. Words-test-knows-the-person register. Four claims:

जीवींचें-जाणणं-आवडी — हेंकड-अमंगळ-ओढी. Knowing-jīva-by-āvaḍī-claim. Knowing thejīvaof (another) —by-this-name(= what we-call-this) isāvaḍī (love, the affectionate-knowing-of-the-other's-jīva);the hēnkaḍa (stubborn / obstinate / contrary) — that one pulls (drags) toward amangaḷa (in-auspiciousness).Knowing-jīva-of-other = āvaḍī; stubborn-drags-toward-amangaḷa. (The opposition:āvaḍīknows-the-jīva;hēnkaḍa pulls-toward-amangaḷa.)
चित्त-संकोचें-कांहीं-घडत-नाहीं — अतिशयें-वेडे-चार. Citta-constriction-nothing-happens-claim. With thesankōca (constriction, contraction) of the citta, nothing-at-all happens;the cāra (the way / the fodder-grazing — of the vēḍē = the foolish) is atiśayē (excessive, extreme).Citta-constriction-blocks-everything; foolish's-cāra-is-extreme. (Two-related-warnings: whencittaissankucita(contracted), nothing-can-happen; thevēḍa (foolishness) gets-its-cāra (food, way) by going-to-extremes.)
काळाविण-कांहीं-रुचत-नाहीं — संकेत-ठेवला. No-time-no-ruci-sankēta-set-aside-claim. Without thekāḷa (time, the right-season), nothing comes to-ruci (relish, savor);having made the sankēta (the signal, the marker), (the matter) was set-aside (i.e., put-on-hold until-the-time-comes).No-relish-without-time; sankēta-set-aside-pending-time. (Two-pronged: the right-season (kāḷa) is needed forruci; thesankēta (the marker that signals when-time-arrives) is set-aside until-then.)
Tuka: वचन-चांचणीनं-कळे — वेळो-वेळां-बोलवून-काय. Words-test-knows-claim. Tuka says: (a person) is known byvacana cāñcaṇī (the words-test);what's the use of bōlavūni (causing-to-speak / making-them-speak) vēḷō-vēḷām (again-and-again)?One-test-of-words is enough; no-need-to-keep-asking-them-to-speak. (Closing-discernment-claim: thevacana-cāñcaṇī (the test by their words) reveals the person; you don't need to repeat the test.)

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For someone today

To really love someone is to know their inner heart, while stubbornness only drags things toward trouble. When your mind is closed and defensive, nothing good can happen, and someone acting foolishly usually pushes things to extremes. Some things simply are not ripe yet, and if the timing isn't right, don't force it, just set it aside and wait. And when you want to know who someone really is, listen carefully to what they say; once you have truly heard them, you don't need to keep testing them over and over.

मराठी: एखाद्याला खरं प्रेम करणं म्हणजे त्याचा जीव, त्याचं मन खरोखर जाणून घेणं; हट्टीपणा मात्र गोष्टी अशुभाकडेच ओढतो. जेव्हा तुमचं मन बंद आणि आकुंचित असतं, तेव्हा काहीही चांगलं घडत नाही, आणि मूर्खपणाने वागणारी व्यक्ती बहुधा टोकाला जाते. काही गोष्टी अजून पिकलेल्या नसतात, आणि वेळ योग्य नसेल तर जबरदस्ती करू नका, ती बाजूला ठेवून थांबा. आणि एखादी व्यक्ती खरोखर कशी आहे हे जाणून घ्यायचं असेल, तर तिचे बोलणे नीट ऐका, एकदा तुम्ही खरोखर ऐकलंत की वारंवार तिची परीक्षा घेण्याची गरज नाही.

Where this applies

When you're trying to understand someone you love and realize real love means knowing their heart, not controlling them
When you notice someone being stubborn and see how it drags a situation toward trouble
When your own mind feels closed off or defensive and nothing seems able to move forward
When you're deciding whether to trust someone and keep pressing them to prove themselves again and again